Mom narcissistics and its impacts on a kids life

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Parents who are narcissists demand that they get everything they feel entitled to – they want life to function according to them, according to their expectations, needs, and desires.

They are rigid parents who have unreasonable expectations of their kids. Not able to understand or identify with their children’s problems, they are very likely to deny their kids’ feelings altogether – perhaps even ridiculing them if they dare to confront the parents.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is categorized by a pattern of self-centered and manipulative behavior that affects interpersonal relationships and social settings. This is not merely an issue with the person — narcissists do not allow for boundaries and there is usually a consistent need to feel superior, privileged, and entitled in their world. Two main categories of narcissism are commonly identified: the overt, which is marked by grandiosity; and the covert, which is marked by manipulativeness. Additionally, there are several different types of narcissistic behavior that can be used to further categorize the disorder according to severity.

The following are the sign of a narcissistic mother

1. Preoccupied with success, power, and beauty

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She often talks about her intelligence, beauty, and other important characteristics, however, this is often done in a way that suggests she is bragging; not merely making conversation. She might also talk a lot about her children in terms of their abilities or achievements, but tends to neglect the emotional side of things. It’s difficult for a narcissistic mother to have a conversation which is not all about herself.

2. A tendency to set unrealistic expectations

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She might expect her children to be compliant and obedient, especially with regard to doing things like completing homework or household chores. She might also expect them to be unconditionally loving and affectionate but with no reciprocal feelings of love and affection required in return.

3. Feels highly self-sufficient

Narcissistic mothers can appear to be very independent. They might prefer that their needs and wants are prioritized over those of their children and spouse. Consequently, they often have a great deal of difficulty with closeness, sharing and intimacy in relationships.

4. A lack of empathy

It is difficult to interact with a narcissistic mother because she does not seem to experience other people’s needs or wants as her own. She might express very little concern for how her words or actions affect others and she might not acknowledge other people’s emotions.

5. A tendency to be envious of others

She has a strong tendency to compare herself to other mothers and children and usually believes that her children and husband do not give her enough attention, success or acclaim. This often leads to unreasonable comparisons between herself and others which results in hostility and criticism.

6. A lack of accountability

It’s normal for parents to make mistakes, but a narcissistic mother is not very likely to acknowledge her wrongdoings or apologize for them. She will often shift blame onto others or have difficulty forgiving those who have done something she believes is unfair.

7. A tendency to be critical

She might frequently complain that the expectations she has of her children are too high or that they don’t live up to them. She will often focus on their shortcomings while minimizing their strengths and achievements. This typically results in a lack of warmth and praise for children, which can have a detrimental impact on their self-esteem and self-confidence.

8. She expects her children to be loyal and trustworthy

A narcissistic mother will expect complete loyalty and trustworthiness from her children, even when they are in the wrong or have been unkind, disrespectful, or demanding. This can result in a child feeling that their maturing process is being hindered or that they cannot express their opinions or be honest with her for fear of being rejected.

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